My Better Life

Living My Best Life and Wanting the Same for You.

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I love this quote, it’s simple and it’s truth.  Don’t think about it, just BE IT.  Most of us spend too much time thinking and not enough time doing.  We spend more time being bystanders in our own lives and not enough time on the COURT making a difference in our lives or the lives of others.  

Just to clarify, I did mean “sell yourself” in the title – not tell yourself.  If you’re telling yourself a “reason” an “excuse” or your rationalizing something – you’re selling yourself on it.

(ADDENDUM: I’m going to add this little caveat here.  I received feedback from 1 reader who felt it wasn’t enough for me to omit that this wouldn’t apply if you have a health (physical or mental) condition. She felt I needed to state it up front, and that without doing this my blog message is, “thus, ableist by omission”. So, I’m stating it …. upfront).

I started today’s blog with the particular quote above because mental toughness played a large part of something I participated in this past weekend – a 65 kms marathon trek in the dead of winter.  Insane, right?

I started passively hobby “hiking” this past Fall.  I say passively because I would hike 10 kms, leisurely with my dog, at no particular pace with no particular goal or destination.  I just wanted to be in the great wide open. I used quotes around the word hiking because I’m not sure my strolls would be considered hikes.

Mid-January, I came across a post on Facebook.  It was seeking participants to trek 1 of 3 different distances — The Pioneer (10 kms), The Optimist (28 kms) and The Full Trek — trekking 𝙽𝙾𝙽 𝚂𝚃𝙾𝙿 𝚏𝚛𝚘𝚖 𝙲𝚊𝚖𝚋𝚛𝚒𝚍𝚐𝚎 (Ontario) 𝚝𝚘 𝚆𝚎𝚜𝚝 𝙼𝚘𝚗𝚝𝚛𝚘𝚜𝚎 (Ontario). 65 kms of non-stop trekking during the most unforgiving of seasons to explore the impacts of rapid development on our community and on each other.

The organizer was Waterloo Region Crossing.  In 2018, three members of a female-founded clean technology company trekked for 20 hours non-stop in the dead of winter with the intent of raising awareness of the risks of exposure for homeless citizens, while raising funds for The Working Centre. In 2019, the event was scaled to 100 participants. They completed the journey as a group in 19.5 hours of non-stop trekking and collectively fundraised over $45,000. EVERY DOLLAR went to The Working Centre, and is being used to build a first-of-its-kind transitional housing and medical facility to serve the most vulnerable members of the Waterloo Region community.  This year 111 of us participated.  I’m not certain the amount raised this year – those stats will be available in the next couple of weeks.

Now, this is an organization I can get behind – these are my kind of people – people who see a need in the community, find a way to contribute and ACT on it.  Not sit there and think about it – they ACTED.  And, because they saw what was possible, people around Waterloo Region are better for it and people like me have the opportunity to know themselves as someone they weren’t before.  Tessa and Ashley, I have such a huge respect for you, thank you for all you do for our community. For your passion to make our community a better one.

…. so, now I have the option of 3 hike lengths – 10k, 28k or 65k, which one do you think I chose?  If you chose the 65k, you chose correctly.  

Now, before signing my friend Miranda and I up for this adventure – remember, I hadn’t walked more than 10 kms at a leisurely pace.  This was really me showing up as someone who is playing big at life!

A few days before the trek, I started having a bunch of different thoughts flooding my mind:

❓ What did I sign myself up for?
❓ Should I have opted for the shorter distance?
❓ What if I’m not able to complete it?

And while I let those thoughts float in, I didn’t let them sit there – they had no place holding space in my mind AND they didn’t jive with what I was out to accomplish ❌❌❌

My challenge this past year has been to be a BIG, STRONG, BOLD YES to life – in so many respects.  I’m no longer holding myself back for fear of looking bad, or of not succeeding or afraid of just being who I was born on this earth to be – ME!

This was no exception❗️I could have chosen a shorter distance, one that I likely could have completed and been proud of , and then … I dug deep and went one bit further. As humans we’ll take the “easy out”, the path of least resistance – if we give ourselves the choice (burn your boats, people 🚢 ). So, I opted not to, I really wanted see what I was made of.  AND, what I know about me – who I know myself to be, is that I always achieve everything I set my mind to. 🆘  I’m not just a yes to life, I’m a HELL YES to life 🆘

Before the trek, I do 2 practice hikes – 1 was 14 kms and the other 19 kms  – my schedule did not permit me to squeeze anymore in.

(fast forward)

…. I tell you those last few kilometres really mess with your head. The sound bit in my head was something like “𝙾𝙼𝙶 𝙸’𝚖 𝚜𝚘 𝚜𝚘𝚛𝚎, 𝙾𝙼𝙶 𝙸’𝚖 𝚜𝚘 𝚝𝚒𝚛𝚎𝚍, 𝙾𝙼𝙶 𝚖𝚢 𝚏𝚎𝚎𝚝 𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚋𝚊𝚛𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚊𝚝 𝚖𝚎, 𝚌𝚛𝚊𝚙 𝚜𝚝𝚒𝚕𝚕 𝟷𝟶 𝚔𝚖𝚜 𝚝𝚘 𝚐𝚘” AND the more powerful voice in my head said “𝕐𝕠𝕦 𝕘𝕠𝕥 𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕤 𝕝𝕒𝕕𝕪, 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕖𝕗𝕗𝕚𝕟 𝕘𝕠𝕥 𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕤!”.

I did it. I pushed myself to the Covered Bridge in West Montrose and completed what I had set myself out to accomplish (with the help of some super awesome trekkers chatting me up along the way, motivating me).  Were there times I wanted to quit?  Yep.  Were there times when the pain in my hip flexor would have been enough for me to stop?  Yep. Could I have stopped at kilometre 50? Yep.  And,  I kept doing.  I did it anyway.

Without detailing every ache, pain, sore muscle/joint, cold limb and lower extremity stiffness — I’ll just say that I completed 68.79 kms in roughly 17 hours and 20 minutes (as per my UnderArmour App).

I woke up feeling super pumped for having crushed my goal earlier in the morning – and super sore – my muscles totally seized and it felt great – that’s the price of hard work 😓

Listen, when I registered I truly didn’t know if I was going to physically and/or mentally accomplish my goal. I had NEVER trekked this far in all of my life, not even close and I’m not physically active, nor fit.  I just said I was going to do it, and I did.  I literally did COUCH TO 65 KMS in 2 practice treks. And, what I do know for certain is I would never have accomplished it had “I” chosen any other distance other than the 65k.

That brings me full circle to the quote I started my blog off with.  The intent of this post isn’t for me to be all braggadocios (although I am proud of myself).  This entry is to highlight that you can always be your word, even to yourself.  I gave my word to myself that I would get to the finish line (unless I had a medical event stop me).  Mental toughness and grit got me there.

𝗦𝘁𝗼𝗽 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻’𝘁 𝗱𝗼 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴. 𝗦𝘁𝗼𝗽 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝗵𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝗯𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝗮 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗽𝗼𝘀𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝘂𝗿𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗹𝘆 𝗮𝗿𝗲. 𝗦𝘁𝗼𝗽 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂’𝗿𝗲 𝘀𝘁𝘂𝗰𝗸 — 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝗮 𝘄𝗶𝗱𝗲 𝗼𝗽𝗲𝗻 𝗹𝗮𝗻𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗹𝗲𝗳𝘁 𝗔𝗡𝗗 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗲𝗰𝗶𝗱𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗶𝘁.  𝗕𝗘 𝗔 𝗬𝗘𝗦 𝗧𝗢 𝗟𝗜𝗙𝗘!

Consider what that may look like for you? What kind of things would move that have never moved before? What kinds of opportunities would that create for yourself?

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My Superpower in this instance was sticktuitiveness.  EVERYONE’S superpower is CHOICE!    

I’ll leave you with this quote from one of the participants, Jim – who was this year’s Maple Flask Winner – the person throughout the trek who shows leadership and motivates other trekkers. It’s so true, I have now caught a (another) glimpse of the capability within myself.

The people who made it possible are back to their normal lives. Pretty sure they are not the same. I salute Sydney, Tim, Miranda, Amy, Alina, Tina, Marie and the others who came out for the training hikes. You made the trek better for everyone else. 𝒴𝑜𝓊 𝒽𝒶𝓋𝑒 𝒹𝑒𝓂𝑜𝓃𝓈𝓉𝓇𝒶𝓉𝑒𝒹 𝒶 𝓁𝑒𝓋𝑒𝓁 𝑜𝒻 𝓉𝑜𝓊𝑔𝒽𝓃𝑒𝓈𝓈 𝓉𝒽𝒶𝓉 𝓂𝒶𝓃𝓎 𝓌𝒾𝓁𝓁 𝓃𝑒𝓋𝑒𝓇 𝓀𝓃𝑜𝓌. 𝒴𝑜𝓊𝓇 𝓅𝑒𝓇𝒻𝑜𝓇𝓂𝒶𝓃𝒸𝑒 𝒽𝒶𝓈 𝓇𝒶𝒾𝓈𝑒𝒹 𝓎𝑜𝓊𝓇 𝑒𝓍𝓅𝑒𝒸𝓉𝒶𝓉𝒾𝑜𝓃𝓈 𝑜𝒻 𝓎𝑜𝓊𝓇𝓈𝑒𝓁𝒻 𝒶𝓃𝒹 𝒽𝒶𝓋𝑒 𝒸𝒶𝓊𝑔𝒽𝓉 𝒶 𝑔𝓁𝒾𝓂𝓅𝓈𝑒 𝑜𝒻 𝓉𝒽𝑒 𝒸𝒶𝓅𝒶𝒷𝒾𝓁𝒾𝓉𝓎 𝓌𝒾𝓉𝒽𝒾𝓃. 𝒪𝓃𝑒 𝒹𝒶𝓎 𝓎𝑜𝓊’𝓁𝓁 𝓇𝑒𝒶𝓁𝒾𝓏𝑒 𝒾𝓉 𝓌𝒶𝓈 𝑜𝓃𝓁𝓎 𝟦𝟢% 𝑜𝒻 𝓌𝒽𝒶𝓉 𝓎𝑜𝓊 𝒸𝒶𝓃 𝓇𝑒𝒶𝓁𝓁𝓎 𝒹𝑜”.

~ Jim Goetz

Namaste

T xo

One thought on “Be Stronger Than Any Excuse You Sell Yourself!

  1. Ken Deng says:

    I am often afraid of doing some dangerous things. This article is very useful for me for being brave to do anything. Thanks for sharing!

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