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A couple of days ago, I posted a blog my exploration of the abandoned 102 year old smelter in Greenwood (Anaconda) BC – what a cool experience! If you haven’t had a chance to read that blog – click here.

This blog will document our journey from Big White, BC to Greenwood, BC – with stops at Beaverdell, Rock Creek and Midway.

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We headed out on Highway 33 (Kelowna Rock Creek Highway), which is the main access  road to where I’m staying up at Big White – Big White is located near the apex of the pass between West Kettle and  Kelowna.



The only other visible community on Highway 33 is Beaverdell, an unincorporated settlement in Monashee Country. It’s located midway along the West Kettle River between Kelowna and Rock Creek.

Interesting Little Tidbits on Beaverdell:

  • Beaverdell was originally called Beaverton. The post offices of Beaverton and Rendell were amalgamated and the name was changed to Beaverdell.
  • Silver was discovered here in 1897 and was mined right up until 1987.
  • 350 residents make this town their home.
  • Despite its proximity to Kelowna, Beaverdell receives about 25% more rain, due to its higher elevation.

We pulled in to fill up the tank.  They have a convenient gas station that also serves as a coffee shop/and auto repair shop – see convenient, right?  If you happen to drive an electric car – they also have electric chargers to meet your charging needs.

Once we gassed up we headed back out onto Hwy 33 and continued straight.  Other than absolutely stunning views and vistas – there aren’t any communities to stop at.


Your next point of reference will be Westbridge – you can’t miss it, it’s a bridge (sorry for the sarcasm here, it’s late).  You’ll turn right onto the bridge, turning left will get you to Christian Valley.

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The bridge crosses the West Kettle River at the community of Westbridge, BC.

The remainder of the drive to Rock Creek you will see utter forestry devastation on both sides and new builds where folk lost their homes.  In 2015 an aggressive wildfire forced hundreds of people to flee the area – not to mentioned the complete devastation to plant and wildlife.  It turns out the fire appeared to be human caused and burned more than 2500 hectares.  Vegetation has since regrown and wildlife has returned and 5 years later and trees still stand bare, blackened, scorched.

We just drove through Westbridge – I’d like to check out more on the Skycliffe Humph Monastery Retreat. Apparently this centre is for spiritual awareness specializes in Buddhist Transcendental Meditation.

Rock Creek

Eventually Hwy 33 turns into BC-3 E (Highway 3, which is also known as the Crowsnest Hwy) and you’ll have arrived at Rock Creek, BC. Rock Creek is an unincorporated settlement in the Boundary Country.  It’s situated on the famous Kettle Valley Rail Trail that has stunning views of the banks of the Kettle River. 

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It’s also site of the Rock Creek Gold Rush of 1859.  I was actually excited to visit Rock Creek as I had heard about the western Canadian gold rush via the television documentary series Gold Trails and Ghost Towns, (Season 3, Episode 8).  I thought I may have had a chance to see something a bit more exciting than what I did.  I saw a very high, fast moving Kettle Creek (close to breaching its banks) and campers camping at various sites for the May 2-4 Long Weekend.  Rock Creek wasn’t super exciting for me – maybe next time I can do some panning for gold?  It’s a thing, you can!

After the initial mining boom, the residents of Rock Creek began to develop an economy in agriculture, forestry, and ranching.

Next stop …


The Village of Midway is in a tranquil valley surrounded by protective mountains between the Thompson Okanagan and Kootenay Rockies. The Village of Midway’s population is a whopping 649 people!

Honestly, I thought Midway was super cute.  Could have spent a little more time here.  Also, the museums and things I’d normally love to do were closed due to COVID-19, which is unfortunate, I love museums – so full of rich local history.

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Located at “Mile 0” of the Kettle Valley Railway, one of the Museum’s main attractions is the original Station House.

Midway is also home to the Ferry-Midway Border Crossing which connects the town of Curlew, Washington with Midway. The current US border station was built in 1936 Curlew, WA is an unincorporated community with 118 residents based on the 2010 US Census.  You can connect to Coopper Bute Mountain, WA via Midway.


We’ve arrived!  Greenwood, BC!  I really took a liking to this history little city.  That’s right, city not town.  It’s the smallest incorporated city in Canada Pop: 665 as of 2016 and has retained its “city” status despite declination in population and business/industry.  Although it’s the size of a hamlet, it was incorporated in 1897 as a booming city, the epicentre of the mining and smelting industry in Boundary country with a boisterous population of 3500.


On your approach to Greenwood (just outside the city) you’ll note a historic stop point or two, worth the quick stops.

Per my last blog on the BC Cooper Company Smelter ruins as you enter Anaconda, BC – the unincorporated township just outside of Greenwood – where the smelter is located, you cannot miss the 100 ft mound of dark black slag and imposing 215 ft smoke stack.   Deciding to “save the best for last” we first went to explore Copper Street and the Nikkei Memorial Site.

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Did you know that in 1998, several scenes of the Oscar nominated movie Snow Falling On Cedars (featuring Ethan Hawk) were filmed Greenwood?  A lot of the Japanese extras were Japanese-Canadians who were interned during there war. Some of the phantom signs and shops remain.  The phantom signs and revamped store fronts helped transform their little mining town into the Puget Sound fishing village of Amity Harbor. The signs have faded over the years and unfortunately have not been up-kept.

These phantom signs and shops are still visible and are located on historic Copper Street.


Nikkei Legacy Park


Next we head over to The Nikkei Legacy Park which is located just on the outskirts of downtown Greenwood.

In 1942, internment of Japanese Canadians occurred when over 22,000 Japanese Canadians, comprising over 90 percent of the total Japanese Canadian population, from British Columbia were evacuated and interned in the name of “national security”. The majority were Canadian citizens by birth. This decision followed the events of the Japanese attack on Pearl Harbor, and the subsequent Canadian declaration of war on Japan during World War II. This forced relocation subjected many Japanese Canadians to government-enforced curfews and interrogations, job and property losses, and forced repatriation to Japan.

Beginning after the attack on Pearl Harbor on December 7, 1941, and lasting until 1949, Japanese Canadians were stripped of their homes and businesses and sent to internment camps and farms in the B.C. interior and across Canada. The internment and relocation program was funded in part by the sale of property belonging to this forcefully displaced population, which included fishing boats, motor vehicles, houses, and personal belongings.

On September 22, 1988, Prime Minister Brian Mulroney delivered an apology, and the Canadian government announced a compensation package, one month after President Ronald Reagan made similar gestures in the United States. The package for interned Japanese Canadians included $21,000 to each surviving internee, and the reinstatement of Canadian citizenship to those who were deported to Japan.

Among those interned at Greenwood were Isamu and Fumiko Kariya and their son Yasi, the grandparents and uncle of NHL star and Hockey Hall of Fame member Paul Kariya; his father Tetsuhiko was born in internment.

Odds and Ends, Out and About Town

BC Copper Smelter Ruins

I wrote a specific blog about this, here’s the link, again.  It was super cool and I would strongly recommend exploring this!  Here are some awesome pics of that adventure. DO IT!


Next we went on the hunt for the abandoned ghost town of Deadwood, BC. We drove down Deadwood Rd. looking for some relics – some semblance that there once was a town here. Deadwood existed in 1897 and was located several miles west of Greenwood. A number of copper claims in the area gave rise to Deadwood. The Mother Lode Mine became a great mine although Deadwood disappeared within a few years. Deadwood contained two hotels, a store, a post office and a school.

There’s nothing is left of the town, although there’s a large field where it once stood and two small shed like structures which were half falling town toward the other side of the road. However, they could have nothing to do with the former town. The name survives in Deadwood Road and Greenwood’s Deadwood Junction Small Town Coffee Shop.

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Well folks, that just about wraps up our day trip from Big White to Greenwood. It’s definitely worth spending a day exploring this route.

Hope this blog has helped you decide if this is a route worth exploring and what points of interest may be in each hamlet on the route from Big White to Greenwood.


DID THE COOLEST THING YESTERDAY!!! I explored the BC Copper Company Smelter Ruins in Greenwood, British Columbia (BC). IT’S BEEN ABANDONED FOR 102 YEARS!


The weather on Big White (Mountain) called for rain all day, that was the perfect opportunity for a day trip! Initially planned to head to Penticton, BC and the weather was equally sucky there, so opted to head in the opposite direction and head down toward Beaverdell, Rock Greek, Midway and Greenwood.  I’ll post a separate blog on Greenwood, BC because I think it’s worth having a separate blog, it’s a super cute “city” with a colourful past and history. Today, I’m specially going to focus on the BC Copper Company Smelter ruins.

Visible to passersby just off Highway 3, travelling East (left hand side) is the HUGE black slag ridge and imposing  215 foot smokestack.

In searching for the entrance to the smelter, we came across this kind gentleman.  He owned a house near the Welcome to Greenwood sign. He wore a ball cap, had thin transition glasses on, which were in sunglass mode because he was outside gardening. IMG_7353He dawned a greyish/black moustache and had lightly greyed hair sticking out from his ball cap.  He described his little town, where he’d come from to settle there, and the inexpensive price of land.  He offered to take us to another abandoned mining town (City of Paris).  We rain checked and definitely will take him up on it some time in the future. He guided us to turn left at the road before you get to the Cango gas station to get up to the smelter (then turn left). 10 minutes or so into the conversation and, just as we were departing, I introduced myself,  he replied – “my name is Pat”. This man not only looked like my dad, had some of his mannerisms … to boot his name was Pat. Ironically (or not) this weekend marked 5 years that we spread my dad’s ashes at the trailer (came up in my Facebook memories). Dad was undoubtedly saying “hi”.

The smelter was built by the British Columbia Copper Company, a new York-based organization that bought the Mother Lode mine in 1898. All of the material that was processed at the smelter came from the Mother Lode mine, which was about 8 kms away my rail. The smelter was erected on a 22-hectare site at the mouth of Copper Creek in Anaconda (just south of Greenwood), the smelter’s own little community.

The smelter operated 24 hours a day and during its 1st year in operation, 106,200 tonnes of ore were smelted.  January 18, 1902 marked a record day …. 416 tonnes (about 9 tonnes for every man employed), were smelted!

Throughout World War I the smelter operated at a reduced rate and on November 26, 1918 it closed its doors, forever. The plant was apparently sold to a Mr. Leon Lotzkar who then disposed of the machinery and gave the site to the City of Greenwood as a park.  Nothing has been done with the park other than erecting the gazebo type structure below, by no means it is a “memorial park”.


As instructed by our local friend Pat, we turned left just prior to the Cango gas station and parked at the entrance … gates are closed for driving access and there’s a sign that says suggests you enter at your own risk.  Contrary to the sign at the entrance, the mine is not active – nothing has been mined here in over 102 years.


When you first enter you’ll see the a house on the left hand side, I didn’t take photos of that (and I should have).  I assume this was the house of the person who operated and oversaw the smelter.

This must have been a very impressive operation, the ruins are massive!  Walking past the house, you immediately come to the large, and I mean large,  black mountain of slag. The smelter ruins mostly sit on the heavy ridge of slag. Very cool to see up close and walk on. Slag is the glass-like by-product left over after a desired metal has been separated (smelted) from its raw ore. Slag is usually a mixture of metal oxides and silicon dioxide.   It was light (maybe a couple of ounces) “rock”, looked like glass and was very dark black/grey.  Every so often you come across slag in the shape of bells.

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The ‘bells’ are huge black slag cones which are referred to as “hell’s bells”.  They were a by-product of the smelter operation. Transported by bell-shaped rail cars (see last photo above – remnants of an old rail line), they were dumped onto the ground, red hot and glowing.  What a sight that must have been at night time – similar to molten lava from a volcano!

Walked up a bit further to find the entrance of what appeared to be a draft shaft and a side shaft.

Further up the trail appeared the smelter stack —- tada!  The original stack was built with sheet steel and was replaced by the present brick stack when the works were expanded in 1904. The brick stack is 36 meters tall, the highest in the province, and contains nearly 250,000 bricks.

Other building ruins have been graffitied – although not in keeping with the historical were pretty cool and created awesome photos.

A little further down from the building ruins, I came across remnants of mining materials which were not sold off.  These artifacts have been sitting and exposed to the elements for 102 years!  102 YEARS!  One looks like to could be some type of boiler or air compressor, the other large piece looks like it could have been part of something that belonged in the Blower Room.

Abandoned SINCE THAT TIME, the smelter’s huge slag pile and tall brick stack has become a landmark along Highway 3, with the site possessing a very appealing mystique. From the last I saw, the City was writing grants and looking for funds to develop the BC Copper Company Ruins into a tourist destination – that was in 2016, nothing yet.

I could have spent way more time at the smelter, really taking in the historical significance of where I was.  Getting really present to what an awesome piece of history I was standing on. I think it’s absolutely fascinating.

This is a must see/do in my books if you’re in/near Greenwood, BC.

Now researching other abandoned mine/ghost towns to check out.  I think City of Paris, BC may be next on the list.


We always seek evidence on knowing something the way we want it to be rather than the way it is.

We see things as we want them to be, which is a reflection

of who we are

Our version of the truth or a situation/scenario is typically based on our personal perspective, our view of life based on our past – on what we know – then we go out and find and collect evidence to support our view, our opinion, our notion.  Not typically considering how something actually is.

There’s always three sides to a story/a view:

  1. Your side/opinion
  2. The other person’s side/opinion
  3. The truth

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In matters of interpreting things, we are subconsciously trying to rationalize things rather than being rational. This is on account of our inherent bias towards what the outcome should be or our belief system or an inability to reason things properly.

Consider how you can alter your mindset.  How you can change the way you see and show up on the world?


T xo

PS:  In a tiny bit of irony; the book I’m currently reading (Critical Vulnerability), it talks about precisely this

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Photo taken from my Kobo – from the book Critical Vulnerability




In constant remind … “I used to be 121.3 lbs” “How did I allow myself to gain 35 lbs?”  “What happened to my willpower?”  “I used to be so pretty”  

How many of you have some semblance of those thoughts running through your mind on the daily?  When you look at old photos, try on clothes or even just get ready to go out? Or how about “Please retake that picture, I look fat!” “Please don’t post that pic”.  I did and I still do, AND, I’m getting better at not living in that destructive, unproductive mindset.  It doesn’t serve me.

I’m writing this blog entry – raw, no edits, no redos – just what’s on my mind and the realizations that I’ve come to over the last little while.  

This specific blog was brought on largely by the recent release of the misogynistic comments in a private group chat that were released about Nicole Zaajac and how demeaning the men in that chat were toward her body image.  Before this story broke, I had no idea who Nicole was and, I really liked her attitude on how she handled the situation and herself.  Turning their gross words into something to be benefited and learned from, a growth opportunity.  Nicole has been posting body-positive messages online for two years – I clicked the follow button on Insta.

“Everything I post, I post online because I feel beautiful. I feel great. I feel worthy.  I just don’t think it’s worth it to let a few comments from people who clearly don’t respect women get to you.” ~ Nicole Zaajac

The last little while, I’ve been following Ashley Graham and Jenna Kutcher – both amazing, inspirational, successful, glorious, gorgeous women who are full figured and preach body positivity (PREACH GIRLS, PREACH!).  

I AM committed to loving my body, for what it is and what it isn’t.  I’m committed to taking on ways to make it healthy and happy – weight loss is a mere added BONUS, not the objective.

Last year I had written a blog on gratitude about my body and all that it does for me, and I lost sight of that.   I lost sight of my OWN WORDS!

” … this is to my body – it’s enabled me to birth my two beautiful children, to walk along the beach, to see beautiful sunsets, to smell the yumminess of coffee, to kiss my dog Ellie, to love, to be creative, to taste food and to write this post.”


It took something for me to find a recent full body pic of myself and I realized, I didn’t have any  – interesting!  I’m changing that effective immediately 

So what, I’m not 121.3 lbs any more (yes, I used to weigh myself every single morning) and that’s ok.  The excess weight doesn’t take away from my huge generous heart, my kick ass persistence and sticktoitiveness nor my massive LOVE for life.  It DOES NOT detract from who I am.

Thank you @NicoleZaajac et al for reminding me of this 👏🏻







T xo


COVID-19 social distancing walk and I’m out and about in the great city of Kelowna, British Columbia (BC). Whilst living up on Big White, a trip down to Kelowna would not be complete without taking the time to search for the legendary Ogopogo who reputedly resides in Okanagan Lake.

Lake Okanagan is about 250 miles (400 kms) east of Vancouver. The lake is 84 miles (135 kms) long and between 2.5 and 3 miles (4 kms and 5 kms) wide, with an average depth of 249 ft (76 m).

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I’ve long been fascinated by cryptozoology … intrigued with folkloric creatures with the likes of Loch Ness, Sasquatch, Chupacabra, Abominable Snowman, Kraken, Sea Serpents, The Mothman, Thunderbirds and Jersey Devil, just to name a few.  And since I’m here, I definitely could not pass up the opportunity to search out Ogopogo.  A few years ago I visited Toutes Aides, Manitoba (while I lived in Manitoba) in search of Manipogo (check out that blog here).

It’s not really a monster, it’s a spirit of the lake and it protects this valley from one end to the other,~ Pat Raphael of the Westbank First Nation

What is Ogopogo?

Claimed to be a distant cousin of the Loch Ness Monster and is said to reside in Lake Okanagan, near Kelowna, BC.  Ogopogo is to Kelowna what Nessie is to Loch Ness: a yet-to-be-identified cryptid that reputedly resides in the lake’s depths and surfaces just often enough to keep the legend alive.

Per the Kelowna Tourism BoardStories date back thousands of years where the Interior Salish First Nation people spoke of N’ha-a-itk, the spirit of the lake. Stories of N’ha-a-itk changed over the years as European settlers transformed the stories they heard into a creature, which later became known as Ogopogo, and the purported sightings over the years continue to strengthen the legend.”


(photo taken at the top of Knox Mountain)

What am I searching for?

Descriptions vary, and certain characteristics have been consistent through the reports.

What are eyewitnesses seeing?

  • Dark and multi-humped, with green, black, brown or gray skin.
  • The head is said to look like that of a snake, sheep, horse, seal or even an alligator Some eyewitnesses say it has ears or horns; others don’t.
  • About 25 meters long.
  • Many sightings simply describe a featureless log that came alive.

Oddly enough, quite the similar description to when I posted about Manipogo!

Not to be confused with:

  • A giant sturgeon
  • An aquatic serpent
  • A wave
  • A floating log

It was 17° and partially sunny in Kelowna a couple of days ago when I was out and about, the weather was perfect!  To scope out Ogopogo, I decided to take a walk down by Kelowna City Park and the Waterfront Boardwalk. The park/waterfront/marina area is a beautiful location to go for a walk and enjoy the scenery of Lake Okanagan.  I loved breathing in the fresh air and soaking in the moments.  People were out today and maintaining/respecting the social distancing measures of COVID-19.

Around town, Oggy takes the form of a cartoonish 15-foot-long green and cream coloured statue placed along Kelowna’s waterfront walk.  I also spotted another Oggy down at the Parkinson Recreation Centre at the kids water park (not open due to coronovirus).

I’m not going to get into all of the reported “sightings” in this blog.  You can easily search online and find all that you’re looking for there with one click.  My blog is to capture MY experience around Lake Okanagan, on searching out Oggy, and to capture the beautiful sights.

Here are a few shots of my walk about around Lake Okanagan down by the marina and Kelowna City Park.

I had about as much luck finding Ogopogo as I did Manipogo.  None.

That aside, Kelowna and the lakefront itself are absolutely stunning and 100% worth the visit.


If the Okanagan is on your places to visit list … make sure to keep your camera/phone ready, your eyes peeled, and your minds open …. you may be the one to spot Ogopogo!

Happy searching!

T xo

Thankful. Grateful. Happy. Proud. Awesome. Pumped.

All words to describe how happy I am that my little bitty blog, much ado about my personal life, interests and passions has reached over 25,000 views!

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I write about things that matter to me.  I have no “niche” per se.  My niche is my life, my experiences, me (with a main focus on life coaching).

Thank you to each and every single one of you who’ve read, liked, commented and/or messaged.

Many of you who read my blogs have followed me through my different life experiences. In a sense, you’ve watched me grow up in front of you. You’ve witnessed me through my mistakes, ever-evolving perspectives, transforation, accomplishments and passions.

I want to take a moment and say deep and sincere ‘thank you’. I would have never had the courage to share my personal stories and vulnerabilities if it weren’t for you.

𝒜 𝒮𝒰𝒫𝐸𝑅 𝐵𝐼𝒢 𝓉𝒽𝒶𝓃𝓀𝓈 𝓉𝑜 𝒶𝓁𝓁 𝟣6𝟫 𝒻𝑜𝓁𝓁𝑜𝓌𝑒𝓇𝓈, 𝓁𝑒𝓉’𝓈 𝓀𝑒𝑒𝓅 𝑔𝓇𝑜𝓌𝒾𝓃𝑔 𝑜𝓊𝓇 𝒸𝑜𝓂𝓂𝓊𝓃𝒾𝓉𝓎!


T xo

I have spent the last 12+ months deeply immersed in personal development, for 2 reasons:

  1. So that I can be contributed to in a way that allows me to make significant changes in the quality of my life
  2. And, so that I can pass all of this development onto you – coaching my clients, my followers, and my viewers. Of course,  the real gold nugget is in the coaching!

What I want to focus on today is INTEGRITY vs MORALITY and the collapsibility thereof.  What I invite you to consider as we work through this, IS which areas in your life lack integrity?  Listen, I get it’s hard to be confronted with this – when I dug deep – I realized that the mass majority of my life was out of integrity and I do this for a living! My sleep lacked integrity, my health lacked integrity, my commitment to my 9-5 lacked integrity, my gym habits lacked integrity, my relationship with friends and family lacked integrity.  So, I say this to you … there is NO make wrong here – IN FACT, congratulations on doing what most people don’t dare to do, what most human beings avoid at all cost and hate to admit.  Bravo you beautiful beings for taking on your life POWERFULLY!

Prior to delving into this – let’s start by visiting how Mirriam-Webster defines the 2:

  • mo·ral·i·ty beliefs about what is right behaviour and what is wrong behaviour  the degree to which something is right and good : the moral goodness or badness of something.
  • in·teg·ri·ty the quality or state of being complete or undivided : COMPLETENESS

One of the most significant things I got present to over the last 12 months is the old adage “we are our word”.  I get …. like I get it, no kidding, 100%!  It’s no longer just an old adage to me.  It’s smack dab what’s so — if there’s one thing we are in this world, regardless of means or possessions, it’s our WORD!  We literally are only as good as our WORD.  How we occur to people in life is solely based on our WORD and that comes from another one of my favourites … INTEGRITY.

(as an aside, have you ever considered how your “mess” becomes your message to people?) 

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Integrity is NOT morality, nor is it ethics, nor the truth.  As human beings, we tend to collapse them, and until I really got this distinction, I did it. all. the. time!  Oh and of course I thought I was right (of course I did, we so often do).  Integrity is about leaving the other person feeling whole and complete.  Integrity is also being a matter of your word.

Keeping Your Word vs. Honouring Your Word

Do you know the difference?  Have an idea maybe?

There’s a definite difference between keeping your word and honouring your word.

I’m going to get into some of this below and I’m also going to be tapping into my friend, Jacques Berge (fellow Life Coach and founder of Success Club Canada) for some additional thoughts. The reason I’m tapping into Jacques is to revisit and reinforce what I’ve learned and what I know I already know.  Also, living life on the “skinny branch” really does take something and it’s impossible to absorb everything all at once.  So, tapping into Jacques for additional insight allows me to see what may be off my radar – because we don’t know what we don’t know!

     Keeping Your Word

Keeping your word is quite easy to explain – you keep the agreement given between you an another party/parties.

E.G:  You have an agreement to meet with Sally at 6:30 PM for dinner at Casa Bud.  You arrive at 6:20 PM and are on time for your dinner date.  All is well.  You’ve kept your word to Sally.

     Honouring Your Word

E.G: You have an agreement to meet with Sally at 6:30 PM for dinner at Casa Bud.  You haven’t considered the traffic of leaving at rush hour and your GPS says you won’t arrive to Casa Bud until at least 6:45 PM.

You call Sally immediately, when you realize you won’t be on time for your dinner reservation and say something like ” 𝘏𝘦𝘺 𝘚𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺, 𝘸𝘦 𝘢𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘳 𝘢𝘵 6:30 𝘗𝘔, 𝘐 𝘥𝘪𝘥𝘯’𝘵 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘧𝘧𝘪𝘤 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 15 𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘶𝘵𝘦𝘴 𝘭𝘢𝘵𝘦. 𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦’𝘴 𝘢𝘯 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘢𝘤𝘵 𝘰𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶 … 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘳𝘦 𝘴𝘪𝘵𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘣𝘺 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘭 𝘐 𝘢𝘳𝘳𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘪𝘥 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦.  𝘖𝘯 𝘮𝘺 𝘴𝘪𝘥𝘦, 𝘐 𝘥𝘪𝘥𝘯’𝘵 𝘨𝘦𝘵 𝘵𝘰 𝘬𝘦𝘦𝘱 𝘮𝘺 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘐 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘴𝘮𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘪𝘵.  𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘸𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘢𝘴 𝘮𝘶𝘤𝘩 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘰𝘨𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘣𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘢𝘵 8:30 𝘗𝘔. 𝘞𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘮 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘰 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘥 𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘦𝘵 𝘮𝘺 𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘳𝘮 𝘵𝘰 𝘨𝘰 𝘰𝘧𝘧 𝘢𝘯 𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘱𝘳𝘪𝘰𝘳 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘤𝘩𝘦𝘤𝘬 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘳𝘢𝘧𝘧𝘪𝘤 𝘣𝘦𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘦𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘰 𝘐 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘦𝘯𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘦 𝘐’𝘮 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘯𝘦𝘹𝘵 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦”.

What you’ve done right there, without even knowing it – is restore integrity with Sally and you honoured your word, even though you weren’t able to keep it. The thing about restoring integrity is that it has NOTHING to do with you.  It’s about getting into the shoes of the other person and recognizing the impact ON THEM.

Note: ꜱᴛʀɪᴠɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ᴋᴇᴇᴘ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴡᴏʀᴅ ꜱʜᴏᴜʟᴅ ᴀʟᴡᴀʏꜱ ʙᴇ ᴛʜᴇ ɢᴏᴀʟ. ᴄᴏɴꜱɪᴅᴇʀ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ʜᴀᴠɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ʀᴇꜱᴛᴏʀᴇ ᴏᴠᴇʀ ᴀɴᴅ ᴏᴠᴇʀ ᴀɢᴀɪɴ ɪꜱɴ’ᴛ ᴋᴇᴇᴘɪɴɢ ʏᴏᴜʀ ᴡᴏʀᴅ ᴀɴᴅ ᴡɪʟʟ ʟᴏꜱᴇ ɪᴛꜱ ᴇꜰꜰᴇᴄᴛ ᴀꜰᴛᴇʀ ᴀ ᴡʜɪʟᴇ – ɪᴛ’ꜱ ᴛʜᴇ ᴠɪᴇᴡ ᴏꜰ ʏᴏᴜʀꜱᴇʟꜰ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ʏᴏᴜ ᴀʀᴇ ᴄʀᴇᴀᴛɪɴɢ ꜰᴏʀ ᴏᴛʜᴇʀꜱ.


Honesty and integrity are absolutely essential for success in life – all areas of life. The really good news is that anyone can develop both honesty and integrity ~ Zig Ziglar

Let’s a Quick Chat With Jacques …

So,  we’ve gone over the difference between keeping and honouring our word … I’m going to tap into Jacques for his brief, personal thoughts on the matter.

1- Question: So, tell me how would you personally describe the difference between integrity vs morality? In your words, what’s the main distinction between the two?


“There’s two basic emotions – love and fear.  

Fear based judgment is morality – good, bad, right, wrong, pretty, ugly … and we do this to protect ourselves.  

Love based integrity is looking at being in the other person’s world, respecting them and looking for a win-win.”

2- Question:  Why Do Think People Collapse Morality and Integrity?


“Because it’s easier to blame somebody else than to look at the truth.  We’re conditioned since childhood to find negative evidence to prove that we’re right”

3- Question:  What do you feel restoring integrity allows?  What Do You Feel is the Most Important Piece of Restoring Integrity? 


“Getting complete with the old way of being and creating a new way that serves both people.  

Having the courage to be vulnerable – that’s the only way it’ll happen – if you have the courage to be VULNERABLE and have established trust you can create any new possibility.”


Jacques and I will actually be creating a more detailed video surrounding this and will posted on my Facebook page —> click here to go to my Facebook page and follow.

This week I invite you to consider taking on what it is to be responsible for every promise you commit to, to the people in your life/work/relationships AND YOURSELF.  If you want better results in life, raise your level of integrity.  Quit being loosy goosy with your words.

What difference would that make for you?  For them?


T xo

Tina Cassidy is a Life Coach having completed her Life Coach certification and having completed the Curriculum for Living.  She has been coaching in some way, shape or form for the last 20 years mainly in the area of life and disability management.  
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