My Better Life

Living My Best Life and Wanting the Same for You.

I never used to think this way. I used to be of the belief that I wanted the great house, the awesome vehicle, a closet full of name brand clothes – have a Louis Vuitton on my shoulder and Louboutin’s on my feet … I have all that and more.

And, guess what? …. it all means nothing to me at this stage of my life.

I’m trading it all in for a passport full of stamps and a bunch of memories to last a lifetime 💗

I leave on my year long journey in 9 months time …. Vietnam, Cambodia, Laos, Malaysia, Philippines, Thailand, India and more!

Traveling, experiencing different cultures, learning the history, meeting new people along the way, rediscovering myself …

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Who’s there with me?  Comment below?


T xo

High Tea With Her Royal Highness?

Ditch the tea bag ….

Did you know that several tea ☕️ bag brands use polypropylene, a sealing plastic, to keep the tea bags from falling apart

If you’re eco-conscious ♻️ or even health conscious 💪🏻 and trying to cut down on single-use, man-made materials, you may not be aware that some tea bags actually contain plastic.

So, even when you put all your used tea bags in the food waste or compost heap, it can lead to plastic pollution, not all of it will be broken down.

Good to know, right?


Billion Dollar Plastics!

Billions of single use plastics make there way to the landfill, ground and water ways every single year 😢. ⁣

You can help by making one simple switch to a reusable bottle. ⁣

How many of you have chosen reusable over single use? ⁣

Hands up ✋🏼. ⁣

Which one is your fave?  Here at ECOtionally we love BottleWorx® (a premium line of stainless steel, double walled, vacuum insulated bottles. Guaranteed to keep COLD for 24 hours and HOT for 12).  


Keep Your Trash To Yourself

On Saturday morning 🔆 the Anna Maersk container ship will dock at the Port of Vancouver’s terminal and unload 69 containers of trash after a weeks-long journey back from the Philippines.

After the Philippine gov’t declared war on Canada 🇨🇦 if it did not retrieve its cargo of trash, Metro Vancouver stepped up to quash the diplomatic row, offering to dispose of the garbage at its waste-to-energy facility in Burnaby, BC.

Most of the contents in those containers are actually recyclable ♻️ in B.C., where many companies would gladly take products to process on their own.

HOWEVER, because of how long it’s been sitting and travelling, officials say it will all be incinerated over fears of contamination ⚠️

We. Have. To. Do. Better‼️ Not even sure I understand why these countries accept “our” recycling when they clearly cannot contain or manage their own 😡


Think Before You Drink

Isn’t that insaneOnly about 10% of the water bottles we use actually get recycled ♻️

90% gets send to landfill❗️ That’s a craZy amount. It should really be reversed 😢

The best way to prevent this is to simply stop using plastic bottle all together. Consider using tap water or filtered water 💧

Dis you know that the slogan “reduce, reuse, recycle” is actually set up to use in that order?



I Dare You To Play Football Here 

Check out this dump in #Delhi #India. It’s larger than 40 football fields together‼️

By 2020 it’s expected to be higher than 73 metres. It actually reached capacity in 2002 but no alternative has been found ⚠️.

2000 lbs still gets dumped here everyday. Residents around the site get ill regularly.⁣

(Shakes head) how much of this refuse didn’t even have to make it to the landfill in the first place 😢

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We can all do better to reduce our footprint, what kind of things are you doing? … we’d love to know 🙂

Stay tuned next week for more short environmental posts 🙂



Here at ECOtionally we have an upcoming 1️⃣ week recycling challenge ♻️ (the week of July 7 to July 14 2019). For the time being it’s limited to our local community,  However, depending on its success, we will be looking at expanding it in the future (of course there’s loot for the lucky participant whose name is drawn).   I’ll be participating along with everyone – after all it’s not right for me to ask people to go beyond what’s normal for them, if I don’t do the same. We can all do better, so I’ll be looking closer at ways I can continue to make a difference as well 💯

Every small steps makes a difference in what makes it way to the landfill and what doesn’t. From the things we choose to buy to the way we choose to dispose of them.

Sometimes we have stuff we already have and just toss them out, and/or hopefully recycle ♻️  them. But the other aspect of the slogan “reduce, reuse, recycle” is REUSE — I’ve been focussing a bit more on how I can personally reuse stuff I already have.

Here are some of those things. Some I’ve been doing forever and others I just implemented – take a look at the pics below.

I reused this glass candle 🕯 jar from Bath and Body Works to burn my new beeswax 🐝 candles


Do these look familiar? I bet we’ve all purchased dozens of these delicious smelling candle for IKEA (see next photo)


I reused them and they are now perfect cups for drinking, or making my chia pudding in.


I switched from pre-packaged tea to loose leaf tea ☕️.
Did you know that pre-packaged tea bags contains small plastic pieces
Yep, several tea bag brands use polypropylene, a sealing plastic, to keep the tea bags from falling apart


I had this room spray bottle and hand soap bottle. Instead of tossing them in the recycling bin, I opted to reuse them.
I refilled the room spray with water and my fave essential oil. I buy the refillable hand soap and just reuse the bottle.
2 more things that I could reuse


I choose to reuse the containers they give us for takeout 🥡, if I can. If not, they get recycled. Why not? We can all use an extra container or jar. The one was from Boston Pizza (which I love cause the top says “please recycle ♻️ this container”).
And the jar was from a mini jam I bought.
Did you know that only 9% of the world’s plastic actually gets recycled!


I repurpose old towels by making them into rags or dish cloths. It gives them a second lease at life and it keeps them from heading to the landfill. When my kids were younger, I’d repurpose their old clothes into rags – I even made them Nike dishcloths in an attempt to get them to clean more 😂.
Did you know – The U.S. alone sends about 21 billion pounds of textile waste to landfills every year? And sadly, only 10-15% of donated clothing actually ends up in the secondhand market.


I reuse paper 📝 at work and at home. I make sure that I use both sides of the sheet before recycling it. It gets double the life that way (and saves a bit of money 💰). I make my scrap paper into what we Frenchies call a “cahier” and when they’re all used, I recycle ♻️  it.


I reuse my dryer sheets. Recently I was thinking I hated these being tossed and decided I’d try to reuse it. As it stands, I typically use dryer sheets twice. But this 3rd time. I decided to add some off my fave essential oil and use them. Worked wonderfully. Clothes smelled nice and it still kept away the static. I think I’ll keep going with this one.  UPDATE:  I just purchased an ECOegg Dryer Ball 🙂


Show or tell us some of the things you’re reusing at your home or work. We’d love 💗 to see and perhaps implement
Much love ❤️

Welcome to ECOtionally!

My name is Tina Cassidy and I’m the Founder and Leader of ECOtionally, where we are committed to preserving and protecting our environment – one hand – one person at a time.

Born of the notion that no matter how small or insignificant your actions may seem, they matter. We believe that it only takes one person to start a movement that could possibly lead to a major environmental breakthrough.


Here at a ECOtionally we are about taking a stand for the environment at all levels — you, home, work environment, community/neighbourhood, city, government, and the WORLD.

Out of all those millions and millions of planets floating around there in space, this is our planet, this is our little one, so we just got to be aware of it and take care of it.” ~ Paul McCartney

As humans, we believe we have the responsibility to care for our world. And it is easier than most people think. Everyone can play an important role as stewards of the environment. We are all creatures of habit, and changing our behavior takes some time. Small steps are key, and once you find how easy each is, you will be surprised how quickly you are able to make a positive difference in protecting our environment.

Our possibility is to have you all so inspired by what we are doing here that you’ll be moved to help us on our journey. After all, no matter how small or insignificant your actions may seem, they matter!


Our passionate, dedicated team is looking forward to sharing hints and tips on how you can help the environment, articles on waste reduction – pollution- global warming – climate change – as well as the great things that companies and individuals are doing to save our planet. We’ll also be sharing our OWN PASSIONATELY CREATED POSTS & some of the PROJECTS WE’RE working on. We’ll also be looking for ways to get you involved.

Please follows us on:

We’re so beyond lucky and happy to have you join us!

Much Love,

Tina and the team at #ECOtionally


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It’s Monday night – I just competed my coaching call, did some promo work, just finished some research on a new project I’m working on …. and about 5 days ago I finished a 3 day JUICE CLEANSE …

I’ve done juice cleanses in the past, but, honestly it’s been a hot minute since I did my last one – likely about 3 years – I know, I know right?

So, while I was grabbing my Buddha Bowl (yassss, OMG Buddha bowls are AMAZING!) at Freshii I saw their advert …

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I had put it off long enough and decided to GO FOR IT!

Right there I decided between one of their 3 plans.  1 Day, 3 day or 5 day.


Prices are in CDN

I didn’t want to chintz out out at 1 day, 5 day seemed a bit too long for a my first attempt in 3+ years, so I went with the 3 day!

What Did My Day Look Like?

Per their recommendation I commenced each morning with a glass of warm lemon water.

Then I started my day by drinking the following drinks in order, about 2.5 hours apart.


They also encourage you to drink 8-10 glasses of water throughout the day in addition to the Freshii juices. Herbal teas are also allowed.

If you’re hungry during your cleanse, they suggest you try to increase the amount of water are drinking throughout the day – yes that includes herbal teas.  But, you also need to listen to your body.  If it’s telling you to eat something reach for raw or lightly cooked fruits and veggies.  You can check out their FAQ sheet here.


To be very honest, I really enjoyed the Freshii juices. Of all the juice cleanses I’ve done, these were BY FAR the best.  I didn’t have to dread drinking them, or drank them slowly because I didn’t like the taste when it only prolonged the agony.  I enjoyed drinking them as a refreshing drink.

My faves were the

  • Charcoal Lemonade
  • Reset

Least fave

  • Recharge


Day One:

As with any juice cleanse you will find day one the hardest, well I do anyway.  But, the more you can prepare your body for the cleanse, the easier your cleanse will be.  They suggest reducing caffeine intake and not eating processed foods.  I don’t typically eat processed foods – but I do drink coffee and mandarin green tea, and I did not prep for this SINCE my decision was spur of the moment (literally).

As expected, day one I had a headache, my stomach was rumbling and I was hangry!  I was able to stay true to my word and NOT eat food.  As much water as I drank, I couldn’t shake the headache and opted for an Advil and an early night’s sleep.

Day Two:

The following morning, I woke up feeling like a rockstar as I packed my juices in my free Freshii new cooler bag (see pic below) to take to work.  My hunger pangs were gone, no more headache and my stomach wasn’t aching for solid food.  Today was going to be a good day!

I took the first 5 juices to work, plus some herbal teas I had here and a large 72 oz bottle of water (reusable).  That day at work was pleasantly easy – despite the fact that one of the doctor’s we work with brought in a pack of Timbits (doh!).

 Was able to finish my juices at home but I was feeling hungry and did opt for a 1/4 of an English cucumber.

Day Three:

I was hoping day three would be a breeze when in fact I found it difficult.  Because I knew I could eat tomorrow …. I don’t remember finding it so hard to maintain my willpower – it seems to escape me more as I age …. lol.  I was super hungry this day.  But, I otherwise, felt great.  I didn’t have a sweet tooth.  I wasn’t craving coffee anymore and I was drinking LOTS of water.


As far as juice cleanses go, I liked the Freshii one.  I really liked the taste of the juices, I actually grabbed two more just to drink as juice today.

I did feel that it helped me hit the reset button and super charge the nutrients going into my body.

I haven’t had any coffee since the detox,  I’m back to tea.  I haven’t had much of a sweet tooth at all actually.  It kickstarted me drinking ++ water again, which I definitely needed.


So if you’re in the market for a juice cleanse I would definitely give Freshii a try, in my humble opinion.


I’d like to try to get back to doing a cleanse a season — do any of you have any other recommendations?

Namaste T


Thank you all for reading my blog ‼️

A few days ago I hit 15,000 views ‼️

I really wanted to redefine my readership this year. I’ve been blogging since 2016 but only sporadically. This year I wanted to increase my followers and my viewership.

And thanks to my increased presence and ALL OF YOU, I managed BOTH.

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It means so much to me that what I’m writing is having an impact on someone somewhere!

I pray you all are encouraged by my blogs to travel, be authentic about that you’re being inauthentic about and maybe dig into your ancestry and that my posts provide JOY as we journey through life together!

Namaste 🙏🏻

T xo

#HappyMothersDay to all the mom’s out there – including the step-moms, fur baby moms 🐶 🐈 , moms up in heaven 👼 and to those dads 👨 out there pulling double duty as both mom and dad 💘

Whether it’s your 1st Mother’s Day or your 25th like me – enjoy your day, you deserve it💕

To my momma Mona:  Mother’s Day is about celebrating the woman who raised you and shaped who you are as a person. From all the packed lunches with napkin notes, to the bandages and kisses after falling off your bike, to being the first one to cry at your graduation– mom was there for it all.

To my MIL (even though we aren’t married anymore – I still love you to smitherines), to my mémère – I’m so blessed and fortunuate to have her around.


And to my kids, thank you for making my job seem so easy – for loving me, for always knowing that everything I do – I do out of love for you.  And for always supporting my dreams.  I love you both.


T xo


⚠️ I am a ridiculously PASSIONATE person, I don’t think that anyone who knows me would disagree. That works to my advantage the majority of the time and at times to my disadvantage … sometimes I need to be dialled down or be more mindful in the way that I communicate 💬 my passion, and, it’s all part of who I am and what I am working on – on transforming my life into one that I love and that I’m passionate about and MOST OF ALL … THAT I CREATED for myself🔅

The things that I’m working on aren’t to change who I am or the life that I have – I love MY life and I am truly blessed, I’m grateful for that every day❗️

I’m doing these things to ENHANCE myself and my life. Not because there’s anything WRONG with me or my life. I want to be clear on that point – some people have suggested to me that I’m constantly on the go because I’m “always reaching for something”. While I hear that point of view on the outside looking in, it’s simply untrue — because there’s nothing wrong with me to change, I’m perfectly awesome just the way that I am (WE ALL ARE). I believe that we all have room to transform ourselves and our lives into anything we truly want. That’s who I am and what I stand for ✔️


One of the many things I have been dedicating my time to in the last few months is The David Suzuki Blue Dot Movement 🔵, in addition to passion projects I’m assisting with for Love Train ❤️🚂  and She Stands – End Bullying 🚫.


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I love helping, I love seeing people succeed. I devote my time to people and projects that are important to me. I want a better world and love seeing that there are so many other passionate folks out there creating businesses, foundations, workshops, events, causes – people that I know and am personally aligned with MAKING A DIFFERENCE IN LIFE EVERY DAY. I’m so honoured to be part of their causes and dreams 💭 and for the stand they’re taking in making the world 🌎  a better place.

These are the things I’m working toward and that I’m working on — moving to SEAsia isn’t just about a year off to travel ✈️ for me – it’s to work on creating change – volunteering for programs there that help clean the environment, educate and getting to know them and their community – how I can help.

It’s to try to do my part in making a difference and taking a stand for things that truly matter to me.

What are you passionate about? What things to do stand for?


T xo

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Hi All – Happy Saturday‼️ It’s late as I write this.  I have my second wind – I have been suffering from the wickedest of headaches the last two days (due to the weather) and spent most of yesterday and today sleeping and laying in bed with an ice pack on my noggin’ 🤕.

So, today I wanna write about something I’ve been working on.  I recently starting partnering with the beautifully talented nugget of a woman (she’s 5’0″ of pure energy and love) … Sabrina La Vista insofar as launching her new passion company #LoveTrain.  I’m working (volunteering) my FaceBook advertising services to help  her get her amazing company off the ground (from an advertising perspective) and most importantly her newest workshop – Single Ladies Dating Workshop coming up on May 26, 2019 – in Toronto!  *** TICKETS AVAILABLE BELOW ***

Wanna find out more about Love Train?

Are you single and looking to up your dating game?  

Are you looking for juicy, romantic love?  

Maybe the Love Train’s workshop has something for you … 

Who is Love Train? 

The Love Train is a committed group of mentors and relationship coaches who believe that everyone deserves a loving and fulfilling romantic relationship.
Founded in 2018, The Love Train was born out of the idea and power of fulfilling romantic love. Through copious research and rigorous training, Love Train coaches reliably deliver refined and tailored coaching in the area of dating, relationships and love. The Love Train methodology has been delivered in various formats, through seminars, intimate group settings as well as one-on-one coaching sessions. The Love Train workshops and seminars tackle real-world issues about modern dating and relationships in a fun and engaging way, leaving each participant clear and empowered to take action in the area of love. Love Train coaches are committed to everyone having quality dates and real, noticeable results in their romantic relationships.

How Did They Get Started?

The Love Train coaching business began when the founder, Sabrina La Vista, completed a vigorous personal training and development program. All around her, she was surrounded by powerful, inspiring leaders making contributions to their families and communities. Yet in the area of personal relationships and dating, so many incredible people experienced frustration and disappointment.
The quality dates they wanted weren’t happening, even with all the dating apps, bar hopping, blind dates and set-ups with a bunch of people.
Something is always just… in the way. Dating fatigue and resignation was setting in!
That’s where Love Train comes in.
Love Train is committed to the idea and power of fulfilling romantic love. Imagine getting all that frustration and disappointment you have about dating and relationships out of your way.

**** Imagine being left with the feeling that you can create ANYTHING you want in your dating experience, attracting the right people and actually enjoy dating again? What would that be like? ****

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Why Did This Appeal to Me?

The decision to offer to assist Sabrina was multi-factorial:

1) I had a service I could offer her to help her build her amazing brand – she’s out to change the relationship game and I’m sooooo game for that!

2) In turn, I could get some coaching and additional experience in advertising and marketing

3) The experience could possibly give me content for my blog 🤷🏻‍♀️

4) Maybe I could take her workshop to help me in the dating scene? (I need it LOL – See my previous post – This is Dating in 2019!

5) I just really helping people and seeing their dreams become a REALITY!


Single Ladies Dating Workshop – Toronto

LADIES … this is JUST for you!

Are you looking for juicy, romantic love? Love Train is here to cause breakthroughs in your LOVE LIFE 💜

They’ll teach you how to stop destructive patterns, develop true love and create greater intimacy


* Getting whatever is in your way, out of your way!

* Teaching you to stop comparing your dates/relationships

* Grating your expectations

* Learning the steps on how to run success dating operation and;

* Creating a new vision for your potential relationship based on your true desires


* Openness to learn and grow in your love life

#allaboardthelovetrain – they’ll help you cherish who you are, see your true magnificence and become a magnet who is unstoppable in love!

 Location details in Eventbrite link 💜 Click HERE for tickets.









Hope to see YOU there!  Afraid to come alone?  Don’t be we’re all in the same boat, better yet – bring a friend!  


T xo


Dating in 2019, wow, what a scary place!  Especially on the heels of watching Dirty John!

Didn’t that podcast and Netflix series freak you the f@ck out?  Seriously, parts of Eric Bana’s character in Dirty John reminded me of my ex, parts had me scared sh*tless of dating ever again without doing a full background check and other parts had me screaming “are you freaking blind woman?” 

Where does one go to find love in this day and age?   I haven’t “dated” in over 10 years … this getting back on the horse things is hard and scary.

What’s out there that’s not Tinder, Bumble or or any other dating app?  I just don’t find the apps nor the men on them to be all that serious about dating in my opinion.  Dating apps are like shopping for groceries online – I’ll have this, this and this and not that, that or that —- left, left, left, left, right, left, left …. It feels so wrong, judging a man by the few posted pics and 3 intro lines (and vice versa of course!).

The main problem with dating apps is the overabundance of fish in the sea.  I think we feel if the other person doesn’t measure up, it’s easier to hit “not interested” and move on to the next person — all this without even going on a SINGLE date!  This is it?  This is what our society has devolved to – swiping left and right?

It’s not that I’m against dating apps per se — but do I think they’re conducive to finding a long-term relationship?  I’m sure there are many who find true love – I’m not saying that they don’t, but, it’s not been my experience so far with Bumble, I fling witty opening messages at a few of the matches I fancy, but things usually fizzle out after the initial flirtation, the conversation is usually boring or very one sided, so we stop messaging all together.  Or, at the hop – some of the “men” say the grossest, sexist things that I’m like BLOCK!  So, it all goes no where …

So I ask myself truthfully, why?  Why do the conversations go nowhere?  Is it me?  Is it the quality of the men who are on these apps?  How committed am I to finding someone on a dating app?  How committed am I to finding someone right now, at all?  Am I more committed to other things in my life than I am finding a mate?  Has my view of dating been warped by the relationship with my ex? Maybe I just haven’t met the right one yet?  Maybe I’m not looking at dating with the correct perspective/filter right now?

I’m reluctant to let my friends introduce me to friends.  That feels all kinds of uncomfortable.  They big them up so much that what if I meet them and I’m like “meh, he’s ok”?  That may harm our friendship, and I wouldn’t want that.

I don’t go clubbing anymore.  I work in a female dominated industry.  I have limitations on the men I’d like to date – for example – having more kids is a hard no for me – so that removes a large segment of the male population.  I also do not wish to be someone else’s step mama largely because my own kids have flown the coup – so that removes another and larger segment of the men out there.   I also have personal preferences that I consider … I know, I know I have severely limited my options haven’t I?  Or have I?  Is there anything wrong with wanting what you want in life?  Not to me.  I’m an empty nester now, which means I want to get out there and enjoy my life – I started my family young and I wouldn’t change it for the world, but now is MY time …


To be fair .. I have to ask myself … What’s crossing my mind when I sit across from the other person?  Does he even have a chance the moment he sits down?  Have I already drawn my conclusion of him the moment I laid eyes on him?  The moment he walks in, have I already determined (subconsciously) that the date was going to fail?  Maybe – but I don’t know for sure, it is quite possible.

So this is dating in 2019?  Ouf, this lady may be single for a long while yet.  

Let me hear ’em … your dating stories … am I alone out there?


T xo

Clip from Dirty John  – Suspicions arise when Debra Newell’s friend reveals she’s never heard of a John Meehan working at her husband’s hospital.

IT’S DAY 10/10 and I could keep going with my list of gratitudes … but I’ll wrap the posts at 10, as promised.

Randy Travis wrote a song years ago called My Heart Cracked … some of the lyrics go:

Shattered dreams, lay everywhere
Broken promises, are all we share
I finally took, all I could take
My heart cracked, but it did not break

My heart’s been broken, twice – we’ve all have broken hearts – they suck don’t they?  But today, I’m grateful for my heartbreaks.

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Someone Like You – Adele

Each heartbreak made my heart stronger, wiser and hopefully more experienced. It gave me the wisdom to tell between loyalty and unfaithfulness, to tell the difference between a lie and a truth, and eventually between reality and expectations.

I used to listen A Little Bit Stronger by Sara Evans on repeat when I was going through it. Do you love this song too?

It doesn’t happen overnight but you
Turn around and a month’s gone by
And you realize you haven’t cried
I’m not giving you a hour or a second or another minute longer
I’m busy getting stronger

And, oh, I’m done thinking,
You could ever change
I know my heart will never be the same
But I’m telling myself I’ll be okay
Even on my weakest days,
I get a little bit stronger

But that was time ago, and I don’t wanna play the broken-hearted girl (Sasha Fierce), I’m better than that.  I have so much to offer someone and when The Universe feels it’s time for me to meet him, I will.  Until then, I’m just happy being ME and be grateful for my lessons in love.


 T xo

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DAY 9 – the 2nd last day of things that I am grateful for ….  it’s able, it’s healthy, i’s responsive and its mine … 

… today I am grateful for my body.  

It takes a lot for me to actually say that.  I’ve been all kinds of down the last 2 years about the weight I’ve put on due to the way I coped with some stuff in my life, not an excuse, just a rationale as to why, I own that I didn’t exercise or eat the healthiest like I used to.

Like a of women, I became down on myself for having gained the extra pounds.  I looked in the mirror and I could only see myself as my former 122 lbs self and because I couldn’t accept myself as my current weight I hated going out, didn’t buy clothes, lived in sweat pants and yoga pants.  It took some time to heal, some self love and a bit of work but I’m feeling good about myself and my progress.  I’m curvy now as opposed to a stick figure (well I didn’t think so but some people may have thought I was too thin).  All this to say, I love myself and I love my body.

It’s rarely let me down … I mean I ache a bit more as I age, I have a bad back and a sore right knee.  I have constant headaches of varies degrees and types, my TMJ symptoms are so bad some nights that I actually get lockjaw (not fun btw) and I’ve had a scare with cancer — but it’s here and it’s healthy.

I try to feed it healthy things, keep down the stress, enjoy my life more and exercise – ok that’s a lie – I HATE exercise lol.  I’ve tried it all and I just can’t.  I exercise once a quarter, but I am active enough … ok, ok fine — I’ll exercise, get off my back already LOL.

So this is to my body – it’s enabled me to birth my two beautiful children, to walk along the beach, to see beautiful sunsets, to smell the yumminess of coffee, to kiss my dog Ellie, to love, to be creative, to taste food and to write this post.

As I’ve mentioned in a previous post, I work in disability claims. Daily I speak to individuals who don’t even have their health, so don’t take it for granted … some people actually mean it when they say “at least you’ve got your health”.


T xo

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OM SHRI DHANVANTRE NAMAHA MEANING It is a powerful healing tool and mantra for Good Health. Dhanvantari is an avatar of Vishnu in Hinduism. He appears in the Vedas and Puranas as the god of Ayurveda. In this mantra we seek his blessings for sound health for ourselves and/or others.





Today’s blog is going to be quick and very to the point … I woke up, felt the warm sun on my face after a long winter, I see the trees trying to bloom their first leaves …

and it hit me, I’m grateful for THAT!  I simple act of nature, but I’m grateful for that.

Can you imagine a world without the sun?

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I didn’t fully realize how much I truly love the warmth and goodness of the sun – I’m a SUMMER BABY, it’s no wonder that Summer is my favourite season.

We have the blessing of witnessing beautiful sunrises in the morning and stunning sunsets in the evening.  Be grateful for the sun, for without it food wouldn’t grow and your body wouldn’t experience its warmth.

“Regardless of Sunshine or Rain, Be Thankful for another GREAT 
day…and treat Life as the ULTIMATE Gift.... Because IT IS :)”

― Pablo


T xo

Anyone else remember this song?

So let the sun shine in
Face it with a grin
Smilers never lose
And Frowners never win
So let the sun shine in
Face it with a grin
Open up your heart and let the sun shine in


Hello day 7!  How are we doing today awesome people?

            …. we all make them, non intentional – oversights.

Today I focus on being grateful for my mistakes

Made perhaps via clouded judgment, your perspective of the world, opening your mouth when you should have thought beforehand or that stupid phone call or text.  WE ALL MAKE THEM AND GUESS WHAT YOU’LL MAKE MORE …

Making them isn’t the biggest part of the problem, it’s what we learn and take away from the mistake we made. I’ve met enough people who learned little from their own stupidity.  The truth is LEARNING from your mistakes is DAMN hard … how many of us have repeated the same “mistake” more than once?  I know I’m guilty of it as much as the next gal … I mean c’mon have you ever met anyone who enjoyed failing?

Learning from your mistakes does not happen automatically—it requires thinking and reflection.

Plus, remember you CANNOT avoid making mistakes – the world we live in today is ever changing … every mistake helps you grow, learn, understand. Be grateful for the wisdom that your mistakes enabled. Life has so many uncertainties and variables that mistakes are inevitable.

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T xo

DAY 6!!!

This morning I woke up, made my tea with my shiny red kettle, poured it into my large Starbucks mug, sat in my lovely sea-foam green chair in my lovely new condominium, with my MacBook Air to write this blog.  After which, I will put on my CG jacket and RL boots and will drive to work in my SUV.

Any guesses based on my intro what today’s gratitude is????

Today’s blog post is about being grateful for what I have ….  for my belongings!

My bags, my clothes, my couch, my bed, my shoes, my SUV, my FitBit — everything I own, I’m grateful for.  I’m grateful that I CAN and DO own these things. I have more than some, less than others – but I am still extremely grateful for what I have insofar as my belongings.  I’m grateful that I had the ability to purchase them or be gifted them.  I definitely cannot complain for all that I have and I am so GRATEFUL for it.

Thank you India
Thank you terror
Thank you disillusionment
Thank you frailty
Thank you consequence
Thank you thank you silence

~ Thank U, Alanis Morissette

I am truly #grateful for all of the things that I do have —  even my pots and pans, my candles, my fan and my duvet — without my pots/pans I could not cook, I could not keep cool without my fan on a hot summer’s day and I could not sleep as warmly without my comfy comforter.  ALL of these little things are important and make my life easier, and for that I am grateful.

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T xo

I love this song — so many thank yous  😍

I’m 1/2 way through my 10 days of #gratitude with this post!  It hasn’t been hard at all finding things to be grateful for …

Post #5 is about the people in my life who have had an impact – in ways some people have no idea that they even have.  Some people are just so amazing, that to be around them makes me better or feel better.

(coincidently this is my 100th post! – woo hoo – I’m grateful for that)

This post is about MY MENTORS … 

Some are family, others friends, a couple of teachers, and even a few bosses.  

I’m grateful for those individuals who took time out of their lives to help me and give me guidance. Who made me feel more competent, recognized my skillsets and acknowledged my value.  To those who showed me that I am loved and how to love.  To those of you taught me the value of integrity and the strength of my word.  To you fine folks who believed in me when I didn’t even believe in myself – who pushed me to be bigger, better, brighter!  TO THOSE OF YOU WHO SHARED WITH ME THE CHEAT SHEET TO LIFE … my life is greater and grander because of YOU and I’m so blessed and grateful!

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Conversely, I’m also grateful for the people who came in and out of my life.  Who were there for a reason, a season, and the experience wasn’t so pleasant — this goes to the same – family, friends, teachers and bosses.  My experience with you too – even if not through mentorship, has taught me so many valuable lessons – how to be a better friend, to be a better colleague, do to better in spite of my past with you.  The real gratefulness here for me that that I was wise enough to lose the person but not necessarily the lesson.

Not everyone in your life is meant to come and stay forever – some people come into your life at the exact moment you need them to, to show you something, to help you grow and then they move on – vice versa – sometimes people come into your LIFE so that you can show them, teach them and then you’re on your way.


Identify 3 people who had a significant and positive experience on your life.

These can be coaches, mentors, professors, bosses, family members, or anyone else. Call those people and thank them for the difference they made in your life.

I did this and it felt so good, I’m still going 🙂



T x

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A recent Facebook post by my friend Kimberley Smith

Ok, we are onto day 4 TODAY, I have so many things to be grateful for – we all do – we just have to take stock of everything little thing – things don’t always have to move mountains to be significant enough to be grateful for – in fact for me it’s quite the opposite.  I’m grateful for the little things in life.  

Today I’m grateful for my CHARACTER … and the things that make me who I am – mainly my courage, strength, determination, integrity and sticktoitiveness.

I’ve lived for 44 years on this earth and I’ve come soooo FAR! From that little, scared, shy, wallflower of a girl, I made it despite or in spite of my adversities, feelings of not fitting in, heartbreaks and pain, though disappointment and failure. I AM HERE due to my sheer strength, grit and determination, STRONGER, BETTER, BOLDER THAN EVER BEFORE, more determined than ever to be my true authentic self and to stand for myself foremost and utmost.  I  had someone truthfully say to me that they were impressed because “for all intents and purposes you should have been a statistic”.  And, I’m not gonna lie, I probably should have been – I broke the cycle of a few things in my family.  With that,  I hugged that person and said “Thank you”.  

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I found my voice and I never looked back.  I’m here, alive, motivated and raring to go. “Be grateful to whatever is giving you the will to drag yourself out of bed and face the world. Be it your motivation, your goals, your God, whatever, be grateful for the courage”.

I’m grateful for:

  • the time when I supported a friend in despair, who felt I was someone they could confide in, to tell me they were struggling.  
  • the time that smiled for a family photo when all I wanted to do was to cry, but I didn’t.
  • the strength to do my job well so that I can help people recovery from their disability and return to healthy, productive lifestyles.
  • my poor, poor heart — scared, wounded, healed, and still up for more of the same. No matter how much it bears it bounces back. 
  • my strength to face my troubles and overcome my sorrows.  
  • the the fact that I was able to become better from my past to where I am today.  

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T xo

George Harrison “Om Hare Om (Gopala Krishna)”

How are we feeling today for Day 3 of our 10 days of GRATITUDE?  Who’s all following along with me?  Comment below – just say hi, I wanna know you’re there 🙂

Today’s #3 can certainly be difficult to think of in gratitude especially when we’re down in the dumps, we’ve had our heart broken, lost a loved one or even got passed over for a job we really wanted.  #3 takes a bit of perspective and the ability to see that no matter the situation, it can always be worse, even when at the time it feels like we’re at your worse.

the 3rd things that I’m grateful for is MY SITUATION …


This blog is serious shit, remember we’re all gonna be aye ok 🙂

If you’re reading this you are already in a better situation than the hundreds of millions of individuals who are struggling each day.

I have felt all kinds of shitty over my 44 years, I promise you – I’ve failed at life and in situations just as many times if not more than you have …   I’ve been in shock, in despair. I’ve been hurt. I’ve been scared to death.  I’ve been cheated on, lied to, manipulated. I’ve been days from not being able to pay my mortgage at times (moons ago).  I’ve gotten in trouble cause I can’t keep my mouth shut.  I’ve loved and lost.  I’ve been lonely.  I’ve been mad and sad.  I’ve been let go.  I almost lost my only brother and lost my dad only 6 months later.  I’ve been treated like crap when all I’ve done is loved.  I’ve been taken advantage of on so many levels (emotionally, financially) … I could keep going but you get the drift.

In the days when I literally did nothing but cry and stay in bed. When I couldn’t sleep or eat. When my heart ached so much it felt as if it was going to explode.  When I was at my worst – I STILL KNEW I was better off than most of the millions of people in this vast world, who can’t afford a roof over their head/who sleep on the streets, they can’t afford food in their bellies, to buy clothes for their babies, they cannot afford to get out of the ghetto, someone they love has just been murdered, someone is struggling with mental health and can’t get the right treatment, someone out there just received the news they’ve got 3 months to live. I was all of the things I mentioned earlier in my blog, but other folks had it worse.  What they wouldn’t have given to trade with me for a brief moment, even when I was in the depth of my despair.  So remember, your situation could ALWAYS be worse.

Your situation also serves as a blessing (in disguise).

Kelly Clarkson said it best (sing it with me – you know you want to )

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger
Stand a little taller
Doesn’t mean I’m lonely when I’m alone
What doesn’t kill you makes a fighter
Footsteps even lighter
Doesn’t mean I’m over ’cause you’re gone


T xo

Another song I love by Krishna Das …

Welcome to day 2 of practicing gratitude ... 

Thanks for joining me along my gratitude journey.  It always feels 
more productive for me to put pen to paper (or fingers to keys in 
this case).  There's obviously a reason counsellors will suggest 
journalling, it just feels good to get it out there!  I've been 
practicing mental gratitude for a long while now, but, I've never 
really put the things I'm truly grateful for in my life on paper.

I’m onto item #2 – my list won’t be listed in order of importance  – just as they come to me and what inspires me to write each day.

ITEM #2 IS MA FAMILLE (aka family)

FAMILY, your biggest fans and your most honest critics aren’t they?

Parents: The only beings who could possibly love you more than to infinity and beyond. Not all parents are great, I’ll give you that, but at the bare minimum they did choose to let you live and gave you life. Some didn’t even get to be born 😦  I’m most grateful to my parents for their support and undying love. It wasn’t always easy, and sometimes it was a pure struggle – but that life gave me the strength to be solid human I am today.  Be grateful for the opportunity if you still have it – losing my dad was the hardest thing I’ve had to go through in life to date.  What I’d do for one last phone call.

Siblings: Your siblings are the best thing that could ever happen to you, with my brother some days I doubt that, and although I struggle to stand for my brother at times, I love him unconditionally.   No matter how much we bicker and argue, at the end of the day he’s always there for me and when push comes to shove he’s always on my  side.


Children: The ones who test you to the brink of insanity, then give you the biggest hug (or do the dishes lol) and it all just melts away.  My kids are my life.  My reasons for being.  The reasons that I woke up on days where I felt giving up.  They’re my prides, my joys, the loves of my life.  They’re everything I did right in this world (happy crying right now).  They’re the purest reflection of me, and I adore them to infinity and beyond.

My foster child, Maria in Zambia and the ones I had beforehand – my heart swells each time I receive a letter from her, on how she’s doing, and the lovely pictures I receive drawn by some little girl on the other side of the world who loves me because I donate less than a cup of coffee per day and write her letters …

Friends, the family you choose ….. the crazy nights out, the embarrassing memories, the late night phone calls, the laughs, the cries and the fact that they’ve got your back. Always grateful for those priceless relationships.  To the ones whom super I’m connected with, to the ones I don’t get to see as ofter as I’d like to, the ones I’ve lost touch with and the ones yet to come into my life.  I’m grate for them all and all of the experiences – they’ve shaped me into the person that I am today.  I’m a pretty big loner, but, I’ve got to say I have a pretty solid base surrounding me.




T xo

Finding Swammy captures exactly how I feel about this song (love)
This song has touched my heart and I am in tears. If you read this – I send you love. No matter what you are going through – I got love for you. If life is good for you then I rejoice with you and if it’s not going so well I am with you there but also letting you know that it will get better ~ Finding Swamy



I’ve been trying to figure out what to write about next.  I wasn’t into researching any more on my family tree. But,  I have been spending some time determining what I wanted to do the first month of my move to SEAsia (next year – woo hoo!).

Enter INDIA — I have been wanting to spend time at an ashram for about 10 years now.  This is my chance to make it happen — fulfil a bucket list item.  I’m in the process of researching which ashrams, locations and what each one has to offer.  I’m actually sitting here listening to Om Nama Shivaya on iTunes as I write it (my fave version is by Krisha Das FYI). Om Namah Shivaya Mantra (ॐ नमः शिवाय) is perhaps among the most powerful and the most popular mantras on the earth. It’s such a powerful mantra for me that I had it tattooed on my left hip about 8 years ago.

But I mostly want to go to spend time in India for its spirituality. Although it’s a cliche, the whole ‘gaining personal enlightenment and inner peace‘ aspect IS a major draw, at least for me. I’ve always searched for that – even here … and that lead me to my blog topic for today and the next 9 days … GRATITUDE!


and ….

the #1 thing that I’m extremely grateful for is ….  MY LIFE!

No matter how you think it is, LIFE IS truly A GIFT.

No matter how much I’ve been through in my years on earth, I still get up and am thankful that I get to live another day … to tell the people in my life how much they mean to me and to be thankful for what I have.  I don’t feel that we as a society take enough time to stop and think about what we DO HAVE.  We’re mainly a society focussed on what we don’t have, what we need next to keep up with the Jones’.

STOP and be grateful for the simple fact that you had the opportunity to wake up this morning when so many individuals don’t get a chance to make it as far as you did.

I work in disability claims, this job can be thankless in a lot of respects, but it is fulfilling when you have the chance to help someone move forward in their life and get to see how you’ve directly impacted their life trajectory.  It is also VERY HUMBLING on the daily, I deal with some members who are extremely ill – who are struggling daily with their activities of daily living, struggling with deep amounts of physical and/or emotional pain and some who know with certainty that their life expectancy on this earth has a DEFINITE TIMELINE 😦

Saturday mornin’ at the crack of sunrise
Thank the man upstairs for lettin’ me open my eyes
~ Mack 10 – Backyard Boogie

My father for example, woke up one morning 4 years ago, expecting to live a regular day, and passed away suddenly on his kitchen floor at 60 – 4 days before he was to come visit me.  Not to sound morbid, but, that is a REAL LIFE, straight to the heart example to me of how precious life really is.

Disease, poverty, famine, drought, natural disasters, accidents — ALL claim thousands of lives each year, but you were lucky. You got to live, to survive, to exist and to be able to dream yet another day!  Be grateful for your life.  It’s awesome and it’s also what you make it.  Dream BIG. Love HARD.  RUN toward your life, not away from it.  You create your life — NOW GO LIVE IT.

Tell me what you’re loving about your life?  I wanna hear awesomeness! Go!


T xo