My Better Life

Life Coach. Environmentalist. Living My Best Life and Wanting the Same for You.

Ok, let’s get honest for a moment shall we?

How bad do you really want change? Enough to get off your hinney and make it happen?   Or are you going to sit there and complain about how you despise your job, how your BF/GF isn’t the right one for you, how you’ve always wanted to start your own business, how you’ve never been able to be complete with your past ….

We can’t change the trajectory of our lives if we’re not committed to:

1) making the decision to have it occur and;

2) taking action

KNOWLEDGE is not POWER, knowledge is only potential power. ACTION IS POWER. Without action – you’re exactly where you’ve always been. And, if that’s working for you (hear hear). And if not, what exactly are you waiting for?

I don’t believe in YOLO … YOU DON’T ONLY LIVE ONCE. You literally LIVE every single day, you die (for good) once.

Everyday you wake up and owe it to yourself to LIVE your most absolute, incredible life. We’ve been conditioned that we can’t, that it’s impossible- that it’s only for the rich and famous – bullcrow – I’m telling you that you can and am living proof that YOU CAN and YOU SHOULD. I’m moving to South East Asia in a little over 4 months … and never would that have been possible given the trajectory of my life and it I had not created it as a possibility for myself a year ago.

I assist people move forward with all aspects of their lives by being a strong stand for them in what they want in the world, in listening, in pointing out their blindspots, in holding them accountable and in championing them as they achieve it.

What’s an area of your life you’d like to transform? Honestly, no one’s life is perfect … and there’s nothing wrong that it’s not. It’s just what’s so.

Let’s have a 30 mins chat about that area – how can I assist you in getting crystal clear in what you’re out to accomplish in the world …

What do you have to lose? (nothing). What do you have to gain? (your life)

Namaste

T xo

 

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Have you ever wondered what a Life Coach actually does?

Have you ever wondered if we’re all just shovelling clouds trying to impress you all to drum up clientele?

Do you think that Life Coaches are immune to ordinary every day problems because of our training?

(Buzzer sound) Most of the time I’d like to think that I am unstoppable, fearless and unbreakable and … I’m human.  I have bad days, I have days with doubt, of second guessing my decisions and choices.  Some days I feel bad for myself and look at others with a tinge of green in my eyes (ooooohhhh the envy).  And guess what, that’s all perfectly ok!  It’s ok to be right where you are.

Here’s the thing, my training as a Life Coach and the extensive personal development I have invested in myself over the past year and a bit have given me to the tools to get out of that space quicker than ever before and back onto the right path — not only does it help me live a better quality life – it helps me provide you with that opportunity too!

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Did you know that as humans we have a way of being in the world that shows up when when we’re confronted by something?  Yep, 100%

Your actions are in fact your way of being on how something occurs for you – and guess what?  We can’t control it!  It occurs automatically. What we are able to do however is recognize it and really getting present to what’s at the heart of your action.

Ok, so let’s use this for example:

You’re at work sitting at your desk working away, when your colleague Jillian comes to your desk and says “Hey, I was working on a file of yours and I noticed that you didn’t do X and I also noticed that you forgot to call Mrs. Z inform her of your decision”.  In that moment your gut/initial reaction is what?

Do you get … Angry? Defensive? Apologetic? Embarrassed? Accusatory?  Make excuses? Really be honest with yourself here.  How would you honestly react? Not everyone would react in the same fashion.  Sally may become really upset that she made the mistake and break down crying, while Suzy may get uber defensive and may not accept any onus or accountability.  Sammy on the other hand, may give you 101 reasons why she made the mistakes in the first place. Neither is right or wrong – there is no make wrong here, and there is an opportunity to transform your reaction in your listening.

In that a brief moment, unbeknownst to you – you acted based on how your colleague’s comment occurred for you. In this case consider that your colleague was giving you the heads up so your boss wouldn’t notice the errors and she’s coming to you to give you the opportunity to fix them.

Point is folks, a couple of days ago, I had one of those days – where I let the way something occurred for me (whether the other person’s actions were correct or incorrect – they were what they were) take me out of the what I’m up to in the world for a few hours …. and …. in that I missed opportunities to be authentic with people.  I didn’t allow myself to be fully contributed to and in my mind I was making other people wrong because things didn’t go the I had hoped they would.

After only a couple of hours and some coaching from my Coach (what, you think Coaches don’t have Coaches? – of course we do – it’s not easy to see your own dilemmas – that’s why you have a Life Coache and coaches have coaches). I was able to shake that off and get back to boom.  I represenced myself to that fact that the bulk of our lives we spend on things that don’t really matter.  I don’t need to live there, nor do you!

So, let’s back out there – we have 100% of the rest of today left …. and yes, Life Coaches have ups and downs too – we’re just better equipped due to our training to get complete with them quicker — and we can help guide you on how to do the same.

Let’s have a conversation …. I’d love to chat with you about the things that you keep running up against … and how life would look like if you could transform the way you act or react ….

Stay tuned — I’ll be updating you all soon on my move to South East Asia happening in only 4.5 months NOW!

Namaste

T xo

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Can’t is 100% for the average!  You’re better than that 😉

When you aim to live a bigger, more powerful life and follow your dreams – there is no “can’t”.

Everything is a possibility, even your breakdowns.

Aim high, because at least when you land you’ll land amongst the stars 🌟

Namaste

T xo

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I’ve seen a lot of buzz on the internet lately about some version of the post below – some positive and others negative – and neither are right or wrong – it’s all a matter of perspective and opinions depending on how you view the world.

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I am of the belief that as individuals we are ALL responsible for the quality and outcome of our lives.  Each and every one of us has the opportunity to create the life we want – we are not destined to live out the life we inherited.

What I invite you to consider as you read this, is that you have a say in your life.  You create your life.  Your life is your creation … consider what your life would actually look like for you if you designed it.

I’ll use myself as an example – I grew up in very humble beginnings – parents divorced when I was the age of 5, not the easiest of childhoods, grew up in social housing – we didn’t have much in the way of any luxury, never took any trips (unless it was to Quebec to see my dad), my mom didn’t drive – so we didn’t have a car.  I didn’t play on sports teams (unless they were through school).  I had my first daughter at the age of 18 (just a month shy of 19) and for all intents and purposes I should have been a statistic (based on the life I inherited), And, I’m not.  I made that choice early on in my life – my life was going to be exactly how I created it to be, regardless of growing up in a lower socio-economic environment, regardless of having a difficult childhood, regardless of having a baby at 18.

I moved out of my mom’s place and lived on my own (I was determined to create my own life).  I took a year off school to raise my daughter, then enrolled in College.  I went to school, raised a baby solo (was a full-time student and mom) and I worked part-time as a cashier a Canadian Tire to make ends meet … I was 19 years old.  All I kept thinking to myself was “a new world for me would look like having a car and a stable job so I can provide for my child to give her the life I never felt I had” I also thought “what my life would look like would be happy, calm, and to be the mother I knew I was capable of being in site of being a young mum”.

Looking back now, I didn’t understand why I thought that – I just knew that I was responsible and accountable for how the rest of my life played out – no one else was to blame – not my parents, not my life circumstances nor my childhood … nothing !  If my life was going to be successful (and we each have our own personal varied definitions of success) I knew that it was up to me.  It’s easy playing the victim of circumstance – of your past.  What’s hard, takes guts and is super confronting is really taking on your life in a new way that alters the course of where your life would have normally ended up – your “probable future” – and my probable almost certain future, if I had not taken action, would have been a teen mom, on social assistance, living in social housing and I would have probably been content living that way , beause it’s what I knew.  I would not be being the powerful, strong, determined woman that I know myself to be today.

Folks, who you ended up being is not who you are – it doesn’t define you — it’s just the way you turned out in the matter of life.  Putting yourself on the line for something whether it be good grades,  change in attitude, thoughts, behaviour, progress, accomplishments, relationships, careers  etc…  is not comfortable and it’s not easy.

I remember seeing online, a few months back, a video of a kid who was studying under a street light.  I recall thinking to myself “wow that kid has some serious dedication around his studies to do it under a street light!”  The story is that a CCTV camera captured the boy doing his homework under a street light pole in Peru. Victor Martin Angulo Cordoba, had to do his homework on the streets because his mother could not afford to pay the her bill and he wanted to make sure he made good grades (video here).  That’s what I’m talking about – doing what’s necessary, regardless of circumstance to get things that matter to you done — he could easily have not completed his homework and that would have been easy and understandable.  Instead, he found an alternative and while not ideal, he did it anyway – he did something that was “unreasonable”.

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You cannot create a powerful life and live within reason – they just don’t mesh — if you continue to function in a world of reasonableness, the same things will occur … you’ll live groundhog day over and over again.  How many of you have experienced that or continue to experience that?

IF you want something in life – go for it.  The most successful people got to where they are because they worked hard to overcome their obstacles and never gave up – even when the odds were stacked agains them.

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Excerpt from the book UnF*ck Youself, Gary John Bishop

Take in the last paragraph of the quote above from Gary John Bishop (I’m so excited because I am seeing him and Tony Robbins and Rachel Hollis and more on October 30 2019).  100% truth!  You don’t have to have want to create something that is ground breaking.  You don’t have to want to turn the earth on its axis.  Consider that you changing one thing in your life that’s important to you – not only changes your life, it also changes and enhances the lives of the people around you.  Consider that me changing/breaking the pattern in my family resulted in a different life for my children and my grandchildren etc. 

Consider that WE ARE WHO WE ARE BECAUSE WE SAY WHO WE ARE — you are your creation – your life is your creation – who/what are you creating yourself to be?

Namaste

T xo

I’m starting with the man in the mirror
I’m asking him to change his ways
And no message could have been any clearer
If you want to make the world a better place
(If you want to make the world a better place)
Take a look at yourself, and then make a change

~ Michael Jackson

 

I’ve grown so much as a person the last year and I’ve also had the immense pleasure of seeing my clients expand, take leaps, get out of their comfort zones and really take charge of mastering their own lives.

This really takes something!  Choosing to take on your life in a way that most people don’t is both confronting and very rewarding (… did I mention confronting?).  I truly applaud people who are out to create big lives for themselves and those around them — because, let’s be very real here, if we transform – by default we transform the people around us.

I set up the people in my life to powerfully win.  I stand for them in what they are out to achieve.  I already view them as who they will become at the end of their journey – so they can’t help but step into that possibility.  People are scared of what they don’t know – and I take a stand for them to function outside of their reasonableness to create a life that everything is possible – and I don’t mean what they see as possible which is limited by only what seems possible within their comfortable “boundaries” I mean honest to goodness shaking their lives up – leaving jobs they’ve been at for over 15 years to launch a business they had only been “dreaming” of starting.  Of being single for 6+ years and having created the possibility of finding a juicy, romantic, loving relationship and within our work together finding a new boyfriend of 4 months!  I’ve helped people work through their biggest fears and helped people move from “dreams” to “action” to “reality” — (see my testimonials on my Facebook and/or Instagram page).

It’s all very real and very achievable – no matter what you’re out to achieve.  The biggest thing is that I understand that everyone needs their own unique requirements to grow … like plants.

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For some people it’s becoming complete with the past – events that have occurred, people they no longer have relationships with that ended badly, their childhood and anything else “back there” that doesn’t belong in the future they’re creating.

For others it may be trying to figure out why they’re recurrently responding the same way each time their boss questions them about something at work, their spouse gets upset about not taking out the trash or when someone doesn’t hold the door open and it slams shut in their face.  We work through the filter in which they see the world and how IT clouds reality.  We get really present to how that way of being and seeing the world doesn’t allow them to solve their problems … to quote Albert Einstein:

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For others we get REALLY CLEAR on what they want in their lives – we dig deep and get really clear on where they’ve been inauthentic in their lives with people, work, family, situations etc.  Now that’s tough work and super rewarding, when you get to be really authentic with people in a way that leaves them seeing you in a different light and as someone who is a person of their word – things really begin to shift in their lives – fast!

As a Life Coach my primary function is not about giving advice. What I do is provide a framework, based on individual fears, beliefs, and motivation that allows one to examine different aspects of their life.  I see it too often, many people go through life, without stopping to define themselves or take stock of their values and beliefs. This leads to confusion and, eventually, we settle for less than what we want.

 Life coaching does for your mind what personal training does for your body.

I only win when everyone else wins!

What are you out to achieve in your life?  Where are you stuck?  Are you living a complacent life?  Are you living the life you inherited or the life you created?

Let’s chat …

Namaste

T xo


Please note that a life coach is different from a counselor or therapist, who is a qualified individual who offers treatment. Life coaches offer emotional support and motivate and help their clients to identify and make the correct choices.

Consider that:

“You have the life you’re willing to put up with.

Think about it, what are the problems of those heinous dark shadows currently spoiling the warmth and happiness of your otherwise blissful life?

🎯 Do you hate your job?
🎯 Are you in a bad relationship?
🎯 Is there something wrong with your health?

Fine! Get a new job, end the relationship, change your diet and exercise or locate the kind of help you need. Seems simple doesn’t it?

Even when it comes to the things you seemingly had no say in, like the death of a loved one, losing your business … you have a massive say and the ways you live your life in the aftermath of those events.

If you’re not willing to take the actions to change your situation, in other words if you’re willing to put up with your situation then whether you like it or not that is the life you have chosen. Before you say … “but” or start to get your knickers in a twist let me say one more thing. By defending your circumstances as they are right now, you are actually making a case for being where you are. Give it up. No buts. You can’t afford them they’re excess baggage on a trip that requires you to travel light.


“Circumstances don’t make the man, and they only reveal him to himself.”


That’s a quote by Epictetus as Epictetus points to – the true meaning of who you are won’t be found in your circumstances but rather the way in which you respond to them. To start this new process, you must first stop another one!”

~ UnFu*k Yourself, Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life by Gary John Bishop

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So, you think you can’t do something? You’re too scared? 😱.

You can, you are scared AND do it anyway!

Anyone who knows me knows I’m deathly afraid of heights. Ask my kids how I am when we take off on a plane.  Ask them which one’s hand used to hurt worse from the nail marks in them!

Ask my eldest about the time we went to the Empire Stare Building and for the pic everyone’s in it looking down at the beautiful night scape of NYC and I’m a step away from the entrance way snapping the photo from there.

Ask my youngest about the time we went to the CN Tower and she was only allowed to go on the part of the glass floor that was closest to me (not in the middle). Or when we were on The Top Of Rockefeller Centre in NYC a few years ago and I had to ask her to come away from the glass ledge because I was so scared for her 😳.

Having given you that background of relatedness. You’re now present to how scared I was to do this – AND I did it anyway 👏

Self generated fear is what prevents us from living our BEST lives folks (in all respects). And it isn’t real. It’s just a limiting belief. Nothing more, nothing less.  

And that’s not somewhere I choose to live any longer. I choose to live and come from a place of power AND strength 💪🏼.  And now that I’ve conquered this and am 💯  the fearless woman I always knew myself to be – the rest of my life is never going to be the same (thank goodness).

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I’m not just the Life Coach who teaches from the stands!

I’m the Coach out there with you on the court everyday – living her best life, confronting her fears and taking on everything that comes my way, powerfully.

What’s your biggest fear?  Have you conquered it?  Have you attempted to?  What was the result?

Namaste

T xo