You Have the Life You’re Willing to Put Up With

“You have the life you’re willing to put up with”.

Think about it, what are the problems of those heinous dark shadows currently spoiling the warmth and happiness of your otherwise blissful life?

🎯 Do you hate your job?
🎯 Are you in a bad relationship?
🎯 Is there something wrong with your health?

Fine! Get a new job, end the relationship, change your diet and exercise or locate the kind of help you need. Seems simple doesn’t it?

Even when it comes to the things you seemingly had no say in, like the death of a loved one, losing your business … you have a massive say and the ways you live your life in the aftermath of those events.

If you’re not willing to take the actions to change your situation, in other words if you’re willing to put up with your situation then whether you like it or not that is the life you have chosen. Before you say … “but” or start to get your knickers in a twist let me say one more thing. By defending your circumstances as they are right now, you are actually making a case for being where you are. Give it up. No buts. You can’t afford them they’re excess baggage on a trip that requires you to travel light.


“Circumstances don’t make the man, and they only reveal him to himself.”


That’s a quote by Epictetus as Epictetus points to – the true meaning of who you are won’t be found in your circumstances but rather the way in which you respond to them. To start this new process, you must first stop another one!”

~ UnFu*k Yourself, Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life by Gary John Bishop

Holy Crow! I Conquered my BIGGEST Fear!

So, you think you can’t do something? You’re too scared? 😱.

You can, you are scared AND do it anyway!

Anyone who knows me knows I’m deathly afraid of heights. Ask my kids how I am when we take off on a plane.  Ask them which one’s hand used to hurt worse from the nail marks in them!

Ask my eldest about the time we went to the Empire State Building and for the picture everyone’s in it looking down at the beautiful night scape of NYC and I’m a step away from the entrance way snapping the photo from there.

Ask my youngest about the time we went to the CN Tower and she was only allowed to go on the part of the glass floor that was closest to me (not in the middle). Or when we were on The Top Of Rockefeller Centre in NYC a few years ago and I had to ask her to come away from the glass ledge because I was so scared for her 😳.

Having given you that background of relatedness. You’re now present to how scared I was to do this – AND I did it anyway 👏

Self generated fear is what prevents us from living our BEST lives folks (in all respects). And it isn’t real. It’s just a limiting belief. Nothing more, nothing less.  

And that’s not somewhere I choose to live any longer. I choose to live and come from a place of power AND strength 💪🏼.  And now that I’ve conquered this and am 💯 per cent the fearless woman I always knew myself to be – the rest of my life is never going to be the same (thank goodness).

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I’m out there on the court everyday – living my best life, confronting my fears and taking on everything that comes my way, powerfully.

What’s your biggest fear?  Have you conquered it?  Have you attempted to?  What was the result?